And complimenting yourself, just like you would compliment others. I am trying to say - stop noticing everything you do wrong and start catching yourself doing things right! Start seeing your good characteristics. And somehow, our mind’s default version is to pay attention more to the negative things. It is easier to reject ourselves than let others reject us.īut the truth is that you most likely are the only one seeing all your faults. But yourself… you know all your weaknesses, all your failures, all your bad characteristics, everything you don’t know, can’t, won’t, etc.Īnd in moments when you are afraid of how other people will perceive you, you humbly let them know what you are not good at before they can point it out. I know you would certainly agree about this when talking about other people. You have worth by being the human being you are - unique and with an unseen potential designed to be fulfilled. There has never been anyone just like you and never will be. It is who we are each as a unique individual with unique experiences, thought processes, looks, worldviews, talents, and characteristics that set us apart from the rest of the crowd. It is not the goal, the status, financial success, material possessions, connections we have, or even our past success that defines who we are and gives us identity. If we can’t be happy and love ourselves here and now, we never will be satisfied and love ourselves. To achieve goals, we need to be in peace with ourselves we need to be happy and loving ourselves regardless of the outcome. The goal becomes something we are always chasing, and it keeps running away from us. While it is essential to set goals, work hard for them, and achieve them, it can’t define who we are.įrom my experience, if we limit our identity with whether or not we reach a specific goal, we set ourselves up for failure. With all the demands that society has these days, we live in a world of comparisons, perfectionism, and “never enough.” We are always thinking that we need to arrive at a particular destination and achieve a specific goal to be “good enough.” Loving and accepting yourself unconditionally can be crucial for your success and growth too. To love others well, we need to learn how to love ourselves. I believe that profoundly affects the way how we can love others. While that most certainly is very important, I want to speak about unconditional love and acceptance of yourself. Usually, when we hear the phrase “unconditional love,” we see it as a reminder for loving others unconditionally (always forgive, not judge, see the best in others).
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